Happy Valentine’s Day!
xoxo

Stop feeling resentment over someone fabulous, accomplished and successful.
Stop being judgmental, harsh and overly critical of someone you actually look up to.
Stop putting up walls between yourself and what you really want.
Stop making excuses.
Stop being a martyr.
There is room for all of us.
And indeed
There is a special place for you.
You have more power than you think.
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“Jealousy is always a mask for fear: fear that we aren’t able to get what we want; frustration that somebody else seems to be getting what is rightfully ours even if we are too frightened to reach for it. At its root, jealousy is a stingy emotion. It doesn’t allow for the abundance and multiplicity of the universe. Jealousy tells us there is room for only one – one poet, one painter, one whatever you dream of being.” Julia Cameron
I remember having one conversation with my sweet life-coach a couple of years ago, where I suddenly bursted crying and admitting that I was jealous of some of the people I most admired. I felt so ashamed. I felt so low. Of course, I quickly tried to back-paddle and explain that I was actually a good person, and “Oh my, please believe that I am usually not like that..” “How shameful!”, I thought.
We are taught that jealousy is a nasty feeling. We curse it and hide it. We are not supposed to talk about it or expose it. Jealousy is embarrassing, so we shut it off. With that, we also shut ourselves out and we never work on the reasons for our feelings. We just stay stuck in the resentment and miss the opportunity to expand and have a real experience.
But jealousy ain’t that bad! It is just a long, spiky stick, poking us right in our tender spots, provoking a desire, a wish within us. We need to follow through with it. We need to see where it can take us. Jealousy can be our friend if we are able to transform its clues into something positive. Once we act, jealousy dissipates and we are free and loving once again.
Create your jealousy map! Indeed a marvelous idea I just ran into recently again, on the Artist’s Way. Identifying my jealousies really allowed me to clarify what steps I needed to take to pursue my happiness and become a self-employed artist.
Figure out your steps.
Who are you jealous of?
Rick Sammon
Why?
He makes books with his photographs of people/ tribes living in remote villages.
How can you act to transform your jealousy?
Travel to remote villages with a camera
Take photos
Make books
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When we actually admit our jealousies, we learn where we want to go. Also by going there, we gain a total new level of awareness and respect for those who we were resenting.
Remember:
There is room for you too.
You have more power than you think.